Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match, find me a find, catch me a catch. Some of my favorite lyrics — from Fiddler on the Roof — and, I might add, a sentiment of my fantasies, as well. eHarmony keeps saying they have no matches for me, and I have stories, boy do I have stories, about match, chemistry and a few others. But in Crash Course in Love, we hear from real matchmakers, Steve Ward and his mom JoAnn Ward. I would love to give them a shot at matchmaking me.
They wrote in their book how often they had to convince people to go out with each other — and then the couples would end up married. They say flesh and blood matchmakers have one huge piece that online dating can’t even touch – intuition!
The book reminds me of Dear Ann which I read when I was growing up — sweet and innocent. Well, except for the sex talk and the texting talk. Mama — and Dear Ann — were right, they say, “men don’t buy the cow when the milk is free.” However, they note that you should expand that comment beyond sex. A guy always wants mystery to uncover.
It’s a fun book to read, and it slips easily into most pocketbooks or hobo bags. And, it’s scientific. Sort of. the Wards talk about the Law of Natural Selection. Basically, girls, you want to be a bit different to stand out. Different in a good way. Quirky, not so much. And, put away the bloody phone — he will think you are broadcasting how unimportant he is if you’re taking calls and texting during the date.
Flirting is good. Nudity is not. The book is common sense, smart, and all the good stuff you need to know — single grrls — is in here.
After reading the book, I think I learned that I haven’t attracted the right guy into my dating sphere, because they think I’m too busy. Not for the right relationships, I’m not! I clear the decks for the people I care about. And in meeting new people, too.
One of the most reassuring concepts the Wards put out — there are plenty of great people out there. You just have to open your eyes.
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